Gentleness Self love and kindness are important when loving others and allowing them to be safe. When someone in your life is trying to establish boundaries and create a hierarchy… allow them the room to feel safe. Don’t join the contest of ego dominance. Just love and allow. Every aspect of someone’s personality was forged by past hurts, fears, experiences, love and guilt. It’s all there in the now. Everything you were and learned you bring to the table. To the conversation. To the now. Remember you can bring all the love too, any time you like, all the time you like.